Sekszorg

Sekszorg is a combination of sex work and healthcare. As a sekszorg provider, I offer support around sexuality and intimacy for people with disabilities or chronic illnesses. This may include education, spending time together, physical contact like cuddling, or sexual contact. Your wishes will be thoroughly discussed, and we will go at your pace. It’s important that you feel comfortable during our time together.

Intimacy

Intimacy is important for everyone. It can be physical and/or emotional. Physical intimacy includes touch like holding hands, cuddling, and sexual activities. Emotional intimacy involves sharing personal feelings, thoughts, and experiences.

If you have a chronic illness or disability, you may experience challenges during intimacy.
You may have less energy for social interactions, find it difficult to initiate touch due to reduced mobility, or become overwhelmed by sensory input. In such cases, sekszorg can offer valuable support.

Support needs

Together, we will define your specific needs and explore what kind of support you’re looking for. You may simply want physical touch, but you might also want to work on areas such as:

  • Learning to communicate your boundaries

  • Getting to know your (changed) body

  • Discovering what you enjoy

  • Managing sensory input during sex

  • Exploring different techniques and toys for masturbation

  • Dealing with fear or insecurity around intimacy

  • Interpreting social cues during sex

  • Learning how to interact with to a (future) partner

Intake

To get to know each other and clarify your wishes, needs, and support goals, we’ll have an intake session. This lasts about 30 minutes and can be done through video call or in person.
If you’d like, you’re welcome to invite someone to join the conversation — for example, a friend, caregiver, or healthcare worker.

If you’re under legal guardianship (declared legally incapacitated), a guardian or mentor must be present during the intake session.

Collaboration

If you work with a care team, it can be helpful for me to be in direct contact with your caregivers. By coordinating with your care providers, I can better account for your current health situation. We can also look at your support needs from a multidisciplinary perspective.

Even with sekszorg, you have a right to privacy. If you don’t want me to collaborate with your care team, I won’t. I will not share any information about you with others unless you give explicit permission.
There are exceptions to this rule, which you can find here.

Location

The same conditions apply as stated under the different date options.

If you live in a care facility and would like to meet there, permission from the facility is required.