FAQ

Yes, I was born with red hair. I’m a true ginger, it isn’t dyed. 

Every date is unique, so it’s difficult to give a one-size-fits-all answer. However, the beginning and end of a date usually follow a certain rhythm.

Arrival
Of course, it depends on the location we’ve agreed upon, but let’s say the date takes place at your home—then I’ll ring your doorbell. The first time is always a bit of trail and error, to feel out what feels comfortable, so I’ll follow your lead in how you’d like to greet each other. That could be with a handshake, a hug, or a kiss. On a repeat date, it’s usually a hug or a kiss.

Once I’m inside, we’ll take care of the practicalities. You’ll pay using the method we agreed on (cash, card, etc.). If you pay in cash, I will count the money in your presence and check if the bills are real.

After that, I’ll send a message to my contact person to let them know I arrived safely. Then I’ll silence my phone and our date can begin. Most of the time, that starts with a drink and a conversation.

Saying goodbye
When our time is up, we’ll probably walk to the door together. Depending on what feels good to you, we might share a hug or a kiss, and then I’ll leave.

The short answer is no. While my dates are always relaxed and friendly, we’re not friends. You’re paying me for my services, which doesn’t fit within the equality that’s at the core of a real friendship.

I understand that my rates might not be affordable for everyone. And in the spirit of transparency, I’d like to explain why. There are many expenses involved in doing this work legally and independently, which leads to higher rates. Here’s an example:

Suppose I’m booked for a 4-hour escort date at a client’s home in Zwolle. The total cost for the client is €1,040. After deducting 21% VAT, that leaves €860. Travel costs (excluding VAT) are €60, so I’m left with €800. That sounds like a lot for 4 hours of work, right?

But I haven’t just worked 4 hours. I also traveled for 3 hours and spent 1 hour getting ready. Not to mention the time spent on communication beforehand. Taking all of that into account, my income would be about €97 per hour. An incredible wage, for sure—but we’re not done yet.

There’s also income tax and the mandatory Health Insurance Act contribution (Zvw), which together take about 40% of my income. That brings it down to €58 per hour. That’s a nice amount—but that’s still not what I actually take home.

There are also additional expenses, such as supplies (condoms, etc.), outfits, marketing, phone costs, a PO box, and bank fees. Not to mention, I have to pay for a permit. Plus, a lot of the time I spend on my business is unpaid. A big part of that is due to men who want to chat forever but never actually book a date (which is why I sometimes have to be strict about the length of calls and messages). Maintaining my website, marketing, and bookkeeping also take up time.

In the end, I make a lot less than people often assume. Someone working illegally from home and charging €150 an hour actually ends up with more money than I do. But I believe it’s important to do this job legally and by the book—which includes paying taxes. And just think: every time you book me, you’re contributing to better healthcare, education, and infrastructure.

So yes, booking me might cost a bit more, but you can be sure you’re not supporting human trafficking or exploitation—and that you’re with someone who genuinely enjoys this line of work.

Yes, I work completely legally! I meet all the requirements to do this job legally. Among other things I’m registered with the Chamber of Commerce, I pay taxes, and I have a permit.

My rates are fixed and non-negotiable. I don’t offer discounts. If you can’t afford my services, I recommend looking for someone with lower rates. If you have trouble finding someone else, feel free to contact me and I may be able to recommend other providers or organizations.

For our date, I wear clothing that makes me feel comfortable and confident, and that appropriate for the season. In summer, that’s often dresses and sandals; in winter, it’s often jeans and sneakers. Underneath, I wear a lingerie set with a bra and slip/thong. I wear light makeup that looks natural. If you’d like to see me in a specific outfit, lingerie set, or hairstyle/makeup look, you’re welcome to make a request.

No, that’s not necessary, but I do appreciate having a name to use for you. This can also be a nickname or made-up name. 
If I’m unsure whether you’re over 18, I will need to see your ID. You can cover your name so that your name stays hidden.
If I need to travel abroad for our date, anonimity is no longer an option. I will need your full name, as well as other personal details. 

Sekszorg is a combination of sex work and healthcare. It can take many forms, such as cuddling, sex, companionship, and education.

The goal of sexual care is to improve the client’s quality of life by promoting their sexual well-being and helping them experience a fulfilling and healthy sex life in their own way.

Escort service is a form of sex work. The person who provides this service, is called an escort. An escort always travels to a location (such as the client’s home, a hotel, or a restaurant), and does not receive clients at their own residence. Escort services can range from accompanying a client to social events to providing sexual services.

There is no fixed definition of what a high-class escort is, but generally, it refers to a woman with elegance, intelligence, and strong conversational skills. In terms of appearance, they are typically very attractive, almost always slim, with long hair and no tattoos or scars. What distinguishes a high-class escort, is the focus on the full experience of the date, while standard sex workers tend to focus primarily on the sexual aspect.

I meet nearly all of the “requirements” for a high-class escort, but due to my plus-size appearance, I may not be viewed that way. I’ll leave it up to you to decide whether I deserve the label “high-class escort.”

Absolutely! I am pansexual and don’t care about genders. 

For sure! It doesn’t matter to me how much or how little experience you have. If you’d like, you can let me know that it’s your first time so I can take that into consideration, but you don’t have to—that’s completely up to you.

Absolutely! It’s important that we discuss how to keep you and any equipment you may use safe and comfortable. If you’d like, we can talk through this with your caregivers to make sure everything is arranged properly.